" who said pleasure was functional? "
-- anonymous
who decides what is functional? every family, every relationship, every friendship is dysfunctional. everybody fights, everybody has something that brings a unique spark to the table. without these little messed up glitches between people, everything would be the same. we wouldn't have the fire, the passion. we wouldn't have these inner-conflicts that make us angry, that make us stronger, that make us make up better. how else do we evolve as humans? by being "functional"? well let me tell you this: I think we function through dysfunction. I think we need the verbal hurricanes, the mood swings, the enigmatic outbursts; without this, who are we really? and if we don't have those, then what does it matter who we are? we can just look at the next person in line and find quite literally no difference.
nobody decides what's right. I hate the concepts of right and wrong. and hate when people push it on other people. so what if he's fighting with her? isn't it up to him to decide if it's "right"? I've decided people who look in on other relationships or families honestly use it as an escape to realize the dysfunctions of their own. honestly, what people choose to display to the outside is their own business, their own way of coping with dysfunction. what you choose to categorize as unhealthy or dysfunctional is your business. just know you're not alone.
and some people are quite content in their roller coasters, thank you very much.