" you're never just playing the villain or the crazy lady. "
-- annabella sciorra
yeah, sure, we ladies are composed. we're the beautiful ones. we're the ones that give the guys a reason to wake up. we're the ones who want the attention, the doting, the special treatment. what we fail to realize is that men deserve all those same things, maybe just not in the same way. since when did men understand women? since when did women understand women? we're not as simple as we pretend to be, we tend to become significantly more psycho after that first date. it'll only be a matter of time before all of the crazy catches up to us, the only thing that separates you from the rest is if you understand why the crazy entitlements are even there in the first place.
for centuries women have been fighting for equality. wonderful! I'm glad, but equality, not extremity. every now and then, is it too difficult for you to spare the hate text after your boyfriend ends a conversation early to hang out with his guys? is it necessary to get upset at how he doesn't quite know the most effective way to comfort you? is it really his fault if he leaves you alone if you tell him to when you're distraught? think about it. I'm all about a guy doing what he should be doing (and maybe a bit more) to reach personal expectations, but that's human nature. just don't forget your expectations for your significant other should also apply for yourself. it's not possible for you to have standards regarding another person and neglecting the idea that you need them for yourself too.
equality. goes both ways. and doesn't necessarily need to be a dark thing. it's quite possible to be equal towards another person and love each minute of it. think of it this way: if you make somebody aware of the fact that being completely content is necessary, how can't you guarantee it won't be reciprocated back to you? just wait. time is the best remedy to understanding.