no option for you saying no

" women are meant to be loved, not understood. "

-- oscar wilde

I mean, maybe he's just saying that because women can't be understood. you can always try, right? sorta like how women try very hard to understand men, but we conclude that they are just idiots. or complicated. or selfish. or "acting like a woman". so I guess the safe route would be to care, nurture, support, or just love the woman. yeah at the core we women are a bit crazy (even explosive), manipulative, all-knowing, and stubborn..but we're also very unaware of the fact that we are too similar to one another. it's very easy to understand another woman, just put ourselves into her shoes right? so does this mean we are very easy to interpret? or is this just something in our code, that's drilled into our brains right when we're born?

either way, it's lucky that there's a code for all men to behave with all women. simply just to love. I'm going to admit that I think the same code applies to men, men are just too manly to admit it. men love being loved. everybody loves being loved. half the fun is knowing you are misunderstood but still very much loved. let's see, if we understood men entirely, would there be any real use for them? no. if people understood the opposite sex, where would the intrigue be? tell me, where could I find the mystery? there's no fun being thrown in a maze knowing exactly how to reach the goal. sometimes just running wild in that maze and losing all sanity along the way makes it worthwhile.

it's funny; a lot of women I know hate surprises. hate being disappointed. hate having to anticipate. what they will soon realize, that's exactly what will reel them in. a guy, who misunderstands. and quite literally only makes his woman do those things.

beat of my heart everyday of my life

" perfection is not all about control, it's also about letting go. "

-- the black swan

who even invented the word perfect? honestly, there should be a rule book, or displayed guideline when somebody learns the meaning of that word because people apply something so specific to broad generalizations. there are different ways to be perfect; for some people it means excelling in academic aspects, for others it means excelling in social aspects, and for some it means every possible aspect. of course it's possible, just as long as being insane comes with the idea of perfection. perhaps how 'perfect' you wish to be is a reflection of how critical you are of yourself.

people go to lengths to be perfect, to reach a level with absolutely no flaws. me? I figured myself out: I need those flaws. I need those smudges. without jagged lines here and there, what would I bitch about? what would I try to fix? what would push me to grow? what's perfect is what suits individuality. perfection comes with the distinguishing characteristics each person has. you alone decide what is perfect for yourself, what brings out your individuality because very few people focus on anybody else's individuality on a daily basis. sometimes embracing a totally hidden side of yourself can bring out the perfection you've always wanted, that quality you have that gives what make you unique.

just understand that humans are constantly changing. people can't function without questions, and can't relax without answers. ideas of love, happiness, and perfection all boil down to each person and what they set or decide to embrace or let go. whatever you strive for, be sure to create your own guidelines first.