dress them up to make a better you

" silent gratitude doesn't hold useful to anyone. "

-- gladys browyn stern

it's true. I mean, when you do something nice for somebody else, whether it's a permanent thing, like caring about someone..or a one-time act, like lending notes, being thanked isn't that last thing you want. I'm not saying fish for gratitude, I can't stand people who fish for anything. and I'm a vegetarian, so I hate it when people fish for fish. besides, it's not fishing, that's tricking and killing. besides the point; there are people in your life who get the bad end of the deal a lot, right? maybe your parents, your significant other, or your siblings. it could be anyone. but do those people ever get the better end? personally, I think if somebody has an effect on you..they deserve to be thanked. maybe if somebody hates you, they motivate you in ways you didn't even realize. one thing leads to another, right? thank the asshole for knocking your books over, leading you to the hunk who helped you pick them up. thank your mom for nagging you all day about organization and cleanliness because now it's instinctive for you to have laundered clothes after each sunday. think of the last person who runs through your mind before you fall asleep, thank that person for never giving up on you. how do you thank? mentally? sure. verbally? can't hurt. but by doing. being grateful and saying you are grateful a lot of the time mean different things.

you're never too good to appreciate. and you're never too good to try. and the beauty of this, is that it can work on absolutely any level from big picture to little picture and everything in between. think of this as another one of life's simple gifts.

and you know what? some girls don't need things to feel appreciated. sometimes it's just the feeling of being appreciated that wins. but if flowers count as things, then, never mind. sometimes those hit the spot, too. especially if they're the perfect ones.

recognize this?

clock is ticking but I can't stand still

" to be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved. "

-- george macdonald

I believe that they go hand in hand. I can't think of wanting to be trusted by someone but not being loved at the same time. there should be multiple characteristics that make up the foundation of a relationship. loving somebody isn't enough; there are compromises that need to be made, there are quirks that need to be tolerated, and there are situational factors that need to be trusted. I think the reason people make a huge deal out of trust is the fragility of it. think of it this way, love is much more lasting and powerful, whether you are burned by it or not. trust? break trust and you are done. there is no real way to fix it. scary, huh? especially because that is the deepest, most fragile layer. think of trust like a window of your house. it's the reason you can see beyond your confinements..see different opportunities..but still be within your element, living in your pure, non-polluted atmosphere. when the window is broken, that's when the noise and the cold come in. the unpleasant, tainted air is let into your space. sure, you can fix it..but it looks different. it feels different. every time you look at that window, you are reminded of what was.

trust until you are given a reason to do otherwise. and lions are cute.