easy on the tini

" ignorance and inconsideration are the two great causes of the ruin of mankind. "

-- john tillitson

now that is definitely true. except does he mean ignorance followed by inconsideration or just those two individually? I mean, definitely, both are terrible on their own, but is it better than somebody be unaware of the problem when they refuse to fix it? sometimes I wonder if it's better for somebody to be blind of their flaws when they're irreparable rather than be aware and incapable of fixing them, thus being unintentionally inconsiderate. I mean sometimes people excuse someone's behavior as something of which they don't understand or even know. because if they did know, they would change it. right? probably, if the change would be for the better. and it depends on what "better" means. better could mean happier, healthier, nicer. it could also mean unhappier, unhealthier, more bitter. if only this could be universal, instead of this case-by-case basis.

there needs to be an understanding, communication in order for some sort of structure to exist. and hopefully that can happen. unless you like the never-ending cycle of misunderstandings. hey, some people do.

might as well shine together

" before you criticize, wait. "

-- william arthur ward

maybe I should take my own blog's advice. I have a nasty habit of thinking too much about how situations will play out, or how people will play out to be. either way, that should change. I mean, I'm not saying I'm wrong when I think of these things, it's always good to be prepared, but sometimes I jump to the worst conclusion. which then leads to me making a total fool of myself. I mean, I also think that I'm destined to do that each day, so there might not be a way out.

things are worth the wait. what things? maybe it's not worth it to wait to study for a huge exam the night before, but it is worth it to wait to watch the episode of modern family once you've done the laborious tasks. maybe I should've waited to write this blog until after I took my art history quiz. too late. it is worth it to wait to say what's on your mind when you are angry. it is worth it to let somebody vent out every possible detail which frustrates them before throwing in your opinion. it is worth the wait to see the person whom you have so longed to see when you know it will mean the world to the both of you, since the passion hasn't attempted to be dormant. maybe it is worth the wait to let the craving of double-stuffed oreos pass, that way you feel better when you crave dove chocolates. waiting can be good. as long as waiting is done properly. and yes, waiting is difficult. especially if what you are waiting for is the one thing that can make you extremely happy. but waiting is worth it.

never let what is important to you become less significant because you need to wait. I mean, let's be real here, if you can even let something become less significant, you should probably stop waiting entirely and let it go.

got you hypnotized

" everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. "

-- carl gustav jung

you know what always pissed me off? when you would genuinely hate someone, and people would say it's because you're jealous. like no, I seriously hate them. anyways, I will say, I used to get irritated by people who were very similar to myself. my sister has this habit of psychoanalyzing everybody to their core, so she can justify why they are psycho to begin with. why? because she has a soul, unlike her younger sister. ha. but, I will say when I have the time and brain capacity, the times I choose to psychoanalyze those who irritate me the most, I find myself seeing more similarities between us, therefore seeing my problems, therefore gaining more self-awareness. I think anybody can gain self-awareness, it just takes a few good friends putting you in your place, and admitting who you actually are. I mean, with my personality, it's very easy to distinguish between those who are fake and those who are putting on a friendly show. and hell yeah, that bothers me. personality clashes really only happen when people are overly compensating. put me in a room with another obnoxious girl, I don't need to prove I'm obnoxious, personalities shouldn't be a competition. neither should attention. but to be completely honest, nobody can explain why certain things irritate people; the beauty of human nature is that we always want to know why. curiosity never dies. neither does competition. if those go hand in hand, then being irritated comes naturally also. especially if you lose. not the competition, but sight of yourself.

questions lead to answers. sometimes not the answer you were hoping for, but you still learn something. just don't lose sight of reality, so that way you feel less like an idiot. cats are cute. from a distance. I'm more of a dog person. but people tell me I act like a cat sometimes. basically, the people who get to see my sassy side. lovely.