give me an open road

" change is the only constant. "

-- chinese proverb

ahh, another twist of life. sometimes change can also mean growth. I personally think that's entirely too situational to just put that out there...since growth isn't necessarily constant. sometimes you can change for the worse, and yeah, that's opinion-based, but sometimes it's apparent whether somebody has grown or not. there are different ways to change: emotionally, physically, mentally, stylistically, etc. I think it needs to be something pretty strong to trigger some change in a person. they argue and say you can't change a person...but I disagree. you just can't change a person unless it's to fix. fixing is possible, reconfiguring is a bit sinful if you ask me. especially when I can 100% guarantee that you're not perfect enough to not consider fixing yourself.

like I've said a billion times..life is a journey. there are a billion routes to get to where you should be. and who decides where you should be? who do you think? I hate the fate argument, but you choose whichever path for whatever reason, and you end up doing things the way things should've been done. any person you've talked to, any person you kissed, any person you hated all lead you to where you are sitting right now. sometimes doing something spontaneous to you may seem like it messed up your plan, but if you really think about it..that was probably part of the plan. anything you're capable of doing, any change you're capable of making is a part of the plan. you'll see.

I dare you to disagree.

if the silence takes you, I hope it takes me too

" it takes a great deal of courage to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends. "

-- dumbledore

ahh yes, a harry potter quote. I must, considering I can't get my eyes away from the books because of an event that'll take place in one week exactly.

yeah..it takes courage..to stand up to anything really. except the weather after 10 am. but honestly, think of a reason as to why somebody is your enemy, maybe that's enough to make you uncomfortable. sometimes I think enemies should be considered as somebody you find equal, just impossible to tolerate. somebody who does not intimidate you, but still manages to be intolerable could just be considered a pest..and I wouldn't say it takes courage to handle pests. just takes energy. but sometimes, you need that energy; sometimes it's okay to "cross the line" and treat an equal like an inferior to believe you deserve respect.

when should you stand up for yourself? when you're unhappy. you're entitled to fair treatment...but maybe not happiness if your happiness is at the expense of another. find the happy medium, where everybody wins. that way, you can go to sleep at night and reduce the nightmares. and also reduce the likelihood that somebody, somewhere is out to get you. because, I don't know if you've heard, paranoia and a black heart don't go too well together..especially if you want to live longer.

this sounds so romantic, but everything falls into place. no matter who you are, you accept life as it is..and eventually forget what bothered you in the first place. as long as you received what you deserve, there'll be less room for negotiating the past. and yeah, sometimes a loved one is difficult to confront..because hurting somebody indirectly hurts yourself, but in the end you both want the same thing. and what kind of person would you be if you hindered each other from getting that?

shake that dice and roll 'em

" if we knew ourselves perfectly, we should die. "

-- albert camus

true. do we ever really know ourselves? and what's best for us? or what we want? sometimes what we want and what we need are extremely different; sometimes what we need is precisely the last thing we'd want (or vise versa)...but if our outlook about life changed, maybe those two things could become the same? let me make myself a bit clear here (I know, first time for everything): if we chose to look at life as a set of adventures and lessons, as an overall journey, rather than obligations or tasks wouldn't what's necessary become apparent?

taking things each day at a time helps make life become more of an adventure; we never know what tomorrow holds because we don't expect anything for tomorrow but something new. maybe something new will happen to you if you decide to let each moment actually happen to you..instead of analyzing each and every second of it. people take for granted the simplicity of life, and how small things become the larger memories in the long run. yeah, plan to make sure you don't starve when you're in your thirties...but make sure you're not starving over the lack of being content (and..well..full of food). look at each day as a gift, because unfortunately, there's yet to be a gift that lasts more than your lifetime. and let's be real here, a gift is only a gift if the receiver is around to enjoy it. otherwise, it becomes another thing to be taken for granted.

give the snooze button a chance. wake up fresher, more optimistic..and ready to step out of your realm. you've yet to know what becomes you, and life is long enough for you to try anything and everything on for size. who knows? this might be the secret to living longer.